So…this past weekend, Christians commemorated Jesus’ murder and subsequent coming back from the dead.
(If you don’t hold these beliefs, I invite you to resist the urge to click away. This post is not a meditation on Easter, but rather on what I call the “in between.”)
Jesus’ disciples lived through long, anguished hours between those two events. They didn’t know the events of Sunday would happen. All they knew is that their beloved friend and leader was GONE, the target of political and religious hatred. They could be next. They huddled in fear. They were left with a void. No direction (although had they listened to Jesus, they had some clues).
I have experienced similar times, when voids were created in my life. Losing a job. Receiving an infertility diagnoses.
And then there are times when I intentionally create some voids.
I created one in spring of 2014 that involved letting go of someone very special in my life. I knew the time had come to separate, as much as I loved (and still do love) her. I didn’t have any other love interests. Going solo wasn’t fun. It created a void. That was scary and lonely.
A year later, I am creating more voids. I’m in the process of not renewing two large volunteer commitments. I know the time has come to separate, as much as I love these organizations and their activities. Here, going solo feels not so scary. It feels exciting. Like a child looking forward to Christmas to see what lovely surprises she finds under the tree.
Creating a void can assist others, as well. I explained to my fellow volunteers: “It’s not good for a group or organization to have the same leadership for too long. It’s time for me to create a void so that other people, and the organization, can flourish.” (hm…new thought…several disciples stepped it up a notch after Jesus was gone after the Ascension. And here’s an interesting article about knowing when to step down.)
In a few months, I will celebrate a year being in an intimate relationship with the woman I consider to be my life partner. I may not have connected with her had I not created space.
I look forward to seeing what other activities present themselves now that I am creating the void in my schedule.
What voids could you create, or are you creating, to make room in your life for something, or someone, new?